Losing a pet can be heart breaking, we may feel lost, deeply unhappy, overwhelmed by grief and fear that no one will listen.
Counselling improves health and wellbeing and is available to anyone who feels the need to talk with someone outside of their family or friends without fear of being judged. You do not need to be referred for counselling by your GP.
Engaging in the counselling process is a personal journey and each session is your 'space'. There is no 'one size fits all' as every person (and their circumstances) is unique. All that is required is a willingness to take a closer look at your sadness and grief and to be as open and honest as you can be, both with yourself and your Counsellor.
Therapy can be both short term or longer-term dependent upon your individual needs. They normally take place at regularly scheduled weekly or fortnightly sessions. Cheshire Pet Bereavement offers both face to face sessions and sessions held remotely by video call using either Skype or Zoom. This enables those unable to travel, or who prefer sessions in the comfort of their own home to be able to engage in therapy.
A good counsellor will work with you by firstly building trust in the counselling relationship to enable you to feel safe to explore your feelings.
Hopefully, given the right conditions by your Counsellor, you will then begin to process events and understand your feelings, thoughts and behaviours. Grief is not a linear process and can be complex for some dependent upon other factors happening in your life at the time. The loss of your pet may touch on previous loss that you have experienced and maybe haven't yet processed.
For some, counselling is simply about having the opportunity to be heard. You will be supported and heard with empathy and compassion.
Most people find the counselling process positively changes how they feel, it helps to 'reconstruct' ourselves so that we can face every day life without our loved one. It has become far more commonplace in the last decade to seek professional help to work through the grieving process...any stigma attached to seeking counselling has thankfully gone.
Pet bereavement counselling hasn't been in the limelight quite so much. Grieving the loss of our four-legged friends is something that some people wonder "is it ok to talk about this?" and may have even wondered if it's 'ok' to have counselling...the answer is Yes!
Because grief, if ignored can become complex and lead to a lack of engagement with life, maybe even unhelpful addictions or behaviours.
Counselling helps us to learn how to sit with loss in a manageable way, to share our emotions and to move to a place of healing.